Creating your own ceremony

Creating your own wedding ceremony gives you the freedom to choose what you want to do and say. With a bit of careful planning you can have a gorgeous interfaith ceremony which incorporates elements from both your traditions in a way that everyone present feels fully included. Read my top 10 wedding tips and the 7 common pitfalls to avoid.

Getting to know you
After your initial enquiry we meet for an informal chat to get to know each other a little. It’s important that you feel comfortable working with me. Similarly, I need to know that I can meet your expectations. At our next meeting we reflect on what marriage and family life as an interfaith couple means to you and what you want from your ceremony.

Putting it together
Once you have agreed a general outline, I begin weaving your thoughts and ideas into a gorgeous ceremony which speaks to your heart and touches your soul.  You are free to choose your favourite readings, prayers, songs, music and rituals from you own traditions. If you are short on ideas, I have plenty. I can also show you how to create your own personal wedding vows– those intimate words which express your deep love for one another and your hopes and dreams for married life together.

Bi-lingual ceremony
If close family members do not speak English, language is no barrier. I can say a few words in several languages and a translation of the ceremony can be incorporated into a special service booklet for the non-English speakers.

Personal support
As the big day approaches it is easy to feel overwhelmed and exhausted.  Sometimes all you need is a bit of breathing space to clear your head and remind yourself what this day is all about. At such times you can count on me for personal support.  There will also be time to explore those tricky issues that often arise in an interfaith marriage which, if not talked about before you tie the knot, can lead to arguments later on.

Make it legal
To comply with English laws of marriage you will need to go through a short civil ceremony with a licensed Registrar.  I recommend doing this at least a day beforehand.  It can be a very short ceremony in which you simply complete the legal paperwork witnessed by two people.  For weddings in Scotland I am licensed under Scottish law to conduct this part of the ceremony too.