Most frequently asked questions

What is the difference between a civil ceremony, a humanist ceremony and an interfaith ceremony?

 

A civil ceremony is a short non religious ceremony conducted by a licensed registrar which gives legal status to your marriage. The ceremony can only take place in a register office or a venue licensed for civil weddings. A humanist ceremony is non religious and performed by a licensed celebrant. An interfaith ceremony conducted by an ordained interfaith minister gives you the freedom to choose your venue and create your own unique ceremony, regardless of what faith, tradition or background you come from. In Scotland interfaith ministers like me are licensed to conduct the legal part of the ceremony.

Can we include other people in our ceremony?

 

Absolutely!  This is your ceremony. You are free to choose whoever you wish to take part. Giving close family and friends a role in your ceremony not only shows how much you value their presence, it also makes them feel fully included. You can ask them to recite a blessing, a personal reading, light candles or get involved in a special ritual. Do make sure they come to the rehearsal so they know exactly what to do on the day.

Can we write our own vows?

 

Yes. The more personal you make your vows the better. Vows or promises are those magical words you will say to demonstrate the commitment you are making to each other. They can be your own words or words which sum up your love for one another and your hopes and dream for married life together.

We come from different traditions which we want to acknowledge in our ceremony. Is this OK?

 

Definitely. The beauty of an interfaith wedding ceremony is that you can incorporate traditional rituals from different faiths and present them in a universal context so that everyone present feels equally honoured and inspired by them.

Can we get married outdoors?

 

Yes. But a word of caution.  If you are planning on getting married in this country bear in mind our unpredictable climate. An outdoor wedding along a leafy river bank may seem a great idea at the time, but can prove disastrous if the weather is bad. Do have a back-up option. Shivering brides and rain-drenched guests do not make for a happy wedding – however breathtaking the scenery!

Do you officiate at weddings outside London?

 

Yes. I am happy to travel to any location in the UK and Europe. All travel and overnight accommodation is organised and paid for by you.

Do you perform weddings in church?

 

No. I believe it is important that an interfaith wedding ceremony should be held in a warm and friendly neutral setting. With so many wonderful places to choose from   you will be spoilt for choice.

What sort of couples come to you?

 

I support couples from all faiths, no particular faith, second time around couples, and couples who want to renew their marriage vows.